Las Vegas may be an earthquake-prone city, but no one in the entire state of Nevada could have been prepared for the level 8 seismic event that rocked Caesar’s Palace last week when a bailiff handed Olivia Wilde custody papers for her ex, Jason Sudeikis, while previewing her latest directing effort don’t worry darling at Cinema-Con.
Wilde retrieved the envelope placed on the stage by the unidentified waiter, opened it to examine its contents, and quickly continued his presentation unfazed. The manila envelope may have been marked “Personal and Confidential”, but it didn’t take long for information about its true contents to surface, giving the whole show a terrifyingly ironic but irresistibly juicy sheen. . Wilde had been served with papers filed by Sudeikis during a pitch for the film where she met the man she went public with a month after their split – an up-and-coming actor named Harry Styles.
News from the Vegas Strip hasn’t rocked the world so hard since Nomi Malone pushed Cristal Connors down a flight of stairs. Showgirlsso naturally, everyone on Twitter was quick to take sides.
Some were sympathetic towards Wilde, citing the objectively flippant manner of the incident as callous disregard for a woman having a pivotal moment in her career. Others raved about the soap-opera nature of the set. Many, like me, have fallen somewhere in the middle, unable to help but revel in the kind of messy celebrity moment that’s all too rare these days while acknowledging that a court case involving custody of two young children is about to happen. turning it from a private matter into a public laughingstock is regrettable to say the least.
The online discourse – the three most heartbreaking words in the culture of 2022 – surrounding the outrageous moment in the days since it happened has been brutal and only escalating. Fans don’t just take sides in a situation they know nothing about, they bully, mock, and make cruel assumptions about each other. Personal trauma is exploited for memes and the possibility of going viral.
Much like the online reaction to the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard libel lawsuit, it reveals a vicious and unsavory – and perhaps now unavoidable – underside of celebrity culture and the way we interact with it: a new how toxic fandom can be.
On the one hand, it’s hard to feel also bad for Wilde. And not just because she’s a millionaire who’s gone from one very hot boyfriend to another very hot boyfriend.
Sure, she may have received custody papers over the course of a career, but CinemaCon just won’t be a process server’s first choice for this type of legal transaction. With the contact details provided by the filing client (Sudeikis), a processing server would more than likely have gone out of their way to contact Wilde to serve the papers ahead of the now legendary CinemaCon smackdown. Wilde should have made herself unavailable or dodged this for a while, which certainly makes sense after being spotted following Styles on her world tour in late 2021 and in the audience for her headlining performance at Coachella just two weeks ago.
Serving someone at a concert isn’t impossible – just ask Ciara, who was served papers onstage at a Pride event in Los Angeles in 2013 – but it would be difficult given the level security of an average Harry Styles show. This man has four nipples, three Grammy nominations and an upcoming album to promote. No one comes near their entourage if they’re not supposed to be there! So if the usher couldn’t get in touch with Wilde anywhere else, why not go where they know it will be: a convention for movie industry insiders? Accessibility may have been one thing, but apparently price wasn’t an issue.
A source close to Sudeikis told multiple media outlets last week that “Mr. Sudeikis had no prior knowledge of when or where the envelope would be delivered, as that would only depend on the fulfillment service company involved, and he would never tolerate it being served in such a way inappropriate. But a CinemaCon badge costs $1,190 for a nonindustrial attendee, which is a pretty big change for an elaborate program like this.
Even though Sudeikis might not condone the way it happened, he will definitely be the one to foot the bill anyway. And he didn’t even get to enjoy the exclusive first look at the trailer for don’t worry darling! Won’t anyone be thinking of Jason Sudeikis in all of this?
Without surprise, Ted Lasso the obsessives on Twitter have already covered this part. They worked hard in quoting mentions and tweets from users who joked about Sudeikis’ perceived pettiness. “I have a feeling [the original poster] would not have the same energy [if this happened to Jason]”, an user with a Ted Lasso said the avatar about a harmless blow to the situation. Another tweeted a picture of Ted Lasso star Hannah Waddingham giving a look of disgust, captioning it, “Me whenever OW and HS are mentioned”, referring to Wilde and Styles. A Ted Lasso simply avatar tweeted quote the short story of Wilde being served with one word: “Delicious”.
“Suddenly, all of the most obnoxious people on the internet are locked in a deathmatch trying to uphold the integrity of celebrities they don’t know personally. ”
First, go fight for any man is a mistake but going to fight for a man just because he plays a brave football manager (sorry, football) who brings his local values of kindness and fairness to the sadly stuffy UK although he don’t know the beans on toast from The Sunday Roast is just ridiculous. Ted Lasso is a character! He can’t cheer you on, he can’t give you a little pep talk in the locker room, and he certainly wouldn’t make his ex serve in public.
The opinions and decisions of this imaginary person do not reflect those of the real person who interprets him. Ted Lasso exists behind a screen and a $4.99 Apple TV+ subscription that should only be used to watch Breakup and Physicalnot base your entire online presence around.
While one part tries to defend the honor of Ted Lasso, the other has jumped in front of Olivia Wilde by proxy of their favorite singer. “IN THIS HOME, WE ADMIRE AND RESPECT OLIVIA WILDE”, said a fan of Harry Styles. “I earn more respect for her every day. I hope she knows she has people who support her and care about her inside and outside of this fandom. I’m sure Olivia Wilde now feels great comfort knowing that her boyfriend’s fans brought her back through this.
Maybe Styles’ fans sincerely love Olivia Wilde, maybe they’re just trying to dissuade and distract from any speculation that the lyrics “Leave America, two kids follow her” from Styles’ latest single, “As It Was”, have something to do with Wilde’s current relationship with the two children she shares with Sudeikis.
The saturation of social media in our daily lives has opened a portal that makes every little detail of every little thing hyper-visible, allowing us to play out our morbidly curious voyeuristic fantasies. What was once an itch that could only be scratched by watching courtly television, hour-long network dramas or Nicole Kidman sinking into a brown turtleneck sweater while looking laden with big little liesis now something served to us on a platter that fits in the palms of our hands and fry our brains with blue light every morning.
So it’s no surprise that when two famous people who aren’t normally subject to rowdy tabloid gossip — and who have virtually no online presence — suddenly find themselves beleaguered in a messy, ultra- dramatic and incredibly public, we can’t help but take our hot little hands on Twitter to watch all the ugly details spill out in real time. If only season two of Ted Lasso had been this engaging, maybe I too would have found myself throwing beards at strangers for a 6-foot-tall mustache in a tracksuit.
And so, what is left? Where are we? Suddenly, all of the most obnoxious people on the internet are locked in a deathmatch trying to uphold the integrity of celebrities they don’t know personally. None of us are privy to the intimate details of these people’s lives and histories, and yet some are so determined to pretend that their relationships with the parties at the center of it all are not completely parasocial.
Even if you’re not pulling one way or the other and just enjoying the show, there’s always a woman at the center of it all, holding a manila envelope marked “Personal and Confidential,” who has just been pushed into irrevocable custody proceedings with her ex concerning their two children. As fun as it can be to revel in all the drama as viewers, there won’t be any winners here once the dust settles.